A dream is just a dream, but a goal is a dream with a plan and a due date. –Harvey Mackay
No matter what the arena: sports, health, fitness, career, relationships, there is always a point when we must make a CHOICE about how far we want to go down the road to success.
When you find yourself in that moment of choice, remember, you can take the easy road and keep getting the same results you’ve always gotten – or you can take the more challenging road and find out just how amazing it feels to reach goals and succeed.The mind gives up before the body does – only if you LET IT.
Lets look at a great athlete; what we see is a result. What we don’t see is the dedication, the hours, the sacrifice and the commitment that went into creating that greatness. People who judge the success of another in a negative way, fail to see the hard work and commitment it took to become successful.
ACHIEVING YOUR GOALS
1. Define what you want.
This is often the hardest part.
Your mind will try to protect you from the unknown by telling you things like “It’s not a good time right now,” or “I wait one more day".
None of your excuses matter at all when measured against the days you have to spend living your life.
2. Look at the big picture and write it down.
You have to write your goals down. Look at them, read them until they’re real.
Write them in a journal, or anywhere you can see them, read them and embed them into your mind. We all have a purpose in life – We just need to fulfill it.
Break up the big picture into actionable steps that you can focus on in the immediate future. Becoming a martial arts master requires isolated training of different body parts, terrains, styles of combat and mental strategy. You don’t do all of those things in one day. Identify the elements that are necessary to accomplish your goals and set a schedule each of them.
One of the biggest excuse I used to have for not taking the necessary steps toward reaching my goals was “I have too many bills to pay to take the time to work on this.” When I decided to get serious about achieving them, I set up an accelerated bill payoff strategy that included living without a car for 6 months.
Where there’s a will, there’s a way. Yes, you will sometimes make some sacrifices. And yes, when you get focused, your priorities might not makes sense to anyone but you. That’s just fine – all you have to do is remember how life was before you took that pill and remember the big picture.
4. Give your goals a time frame.
Perturbation, or mental agitation is one of the most important elements in goal-setting that I learned from my good friend and coach – the Achievement Mentor himself, Tom Terwilliger.
When setting your goals, give yourself a specific time frame in which you’re going to complete them. It needs to be soon enough that you begin to feel the changes you’re making becoming real, and just long enough to give you time to take care of all of the details.
That pressure will push you to get after it on a Saturday or a Tuesday night instead of watching TV or surfing the internet – exactly the difference that it takes to get you there.
5. Choose your friends and social networks carefully.
Who we spend our time around influences the direction we take. We rub off on other people too. One of the best things I have learned is, I have just as much power to influence how someone feels as they have on me. Positive encouragement goes a long way. Setting a positive example will influence not only your children, family and friends, this will influence everyone you come into contact with on a daily basis.
6. Don’t succumb to negative self-talk.
I hear people say things every day that ultimately holds them back from true success. “I’m bad at this.” “I suck at relationships.” “No one would ever listen to me.” We create our own reality. Get out of that mindset and don’t stop bringing yourself down. Remember that your mind plays tricks on us. We can become what we think. BE careful with this one!
7. Fall down. Get up. Repeat.
Don’t let the bumps in the road and set backs derail you from your purpose. Accept them and keep going.
I have a personal goal of completing the Super Spartan race. It may not seem like a big deal to some, but it is my goal and it is huge to me. To prepare myself I have added significant features to my every day training to build my strength, endurance and build core, arm and leg strength.
I can't tell you how many times I have fallen in life. But I always get up. I always finish and I never give up!